Nurturing Sleep

Home of Emotional Wellbeing and Child Sleep 

Sleep Support the Nurturing Sleep way,

Happy, safe and reassured!

My emotional wellbeing approach to baby and child sleep is best described as emotionally appropriate.

 

The aim is to ensure that each baby and child’s feelings and emotions are fully addressed so that she feels safe, happy and reassured in relation to sleep.

 

It’s important that emotions are addressed because sometimes they can become barriers to healthy and restorative sleep. To effectively address these possible barriers and emotions we need to dig deep to identify emotional, traumatic and difficult experiences the parents and / or child may have experienced during pregnancy, birth or after birth which may be influencing sleep now.


We need to recognize and acknowledge that all behavior has meaning - which is why I do not use behavioural techniques which, in isolation, aim to "train" behaviors.

In a nutshell - What I do not do:

 

I do not sleep train babies or young children, 

I do not use quick fixes, nor do I use behavioural approaches such as controlled crying, cry-it-out or even no-cry. Quick fixes and behavioral approaches serve to ‘train and condition’ a child to sleep without thought of their underlying emotional needs or experiences. While these approaches may suit some parents, I offer an alternative. 

Please also note: I do not use behavioral approaches - therefore I do not use a no-cry approach - no-cry is a behavioral approach.

What my emotional wellbeing sleep approach is about: What I do:

 

It’s about responsiveness, listening, looking beyond the behaviors to the underlying emotions and feelings, understanding the root causes of difficult sleep behaviors, and behaviors generally. My work and support is delivered within a structured approach which is in line with Aware Parenting and connection parenting theories.

 

It’s about connection, trust, attunement and attachment;


It's about understanding what behaviors mean, and what the roots of those behaviors are;

 

It’s about meeting emotional as well as physical needs, and helping parents understand these underlying needs;

 

It’s about making sure a child feels physically and emotionally safe to be his or her authentic self;

 

It’s about empowering parents and carers through supporting understanding, informing, providing tools to support their unique child and providing a realistic level of support;

 

It’s also about a structured approach towards the sleep goal;

 

It’s about viewing each baby and child as a unique individual and respecting each child’s unique experiences, feelings and emotions.

 

It’s about realistic goals for each child and family.

What do I do exactly?

 

Many parents ask this question!

 

My answer: I don’t know until I have fully investigated each case. If I knew before  I started working with a family I’d be using a one size fits all.

 I can tell you that the sleep process involves:

 

Investigation of sleep, behaviors and previous experiences, birth, and pregnancy, daily routines etc.

 

A plan forward which typically includes a written assessment and a series of steps to support your child’s progress to your goal which meets the unique needs of the baby or child holistically.