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Cry it out or emotional responsiveness? One parent's story

Posted on 28 April, 2015 at 11:00

I went to Ann at the stage when i was desperate for help. My little one was 1 year old and had been having sleep problems ever since she was 4mo. This had become a huge problem within our household for one main reason: I didn't want to follow the cry-it-out method whilst my partner was more inclined to do so.

 

I decided that before giving in to the 'cry it out' method, I would go to Ann as a last resort hoping that she would help me through this ordeal and get our baby girl to start having better sleep patterns.

 

I was still breastfeeding at the time and she was waking up 5 times a night and had to be on the breast every single time. Putting her to bed sometimes took over an hour on a daily basis. I was so tired that my little one would fall asleep on me while I was breastfeeding her. I would wake up 2 or 3 hours later barely realising the time that had passed.

 

From the minute I talked to Ann, I felt that she had a deep understanding of everything I was going through. She showed every bit of empathy and genuinely set out on helping us. She always carefully listened to what I was saying which allowed her to identify the problems in L's sleep situation the way we had been dealing with it all along. Accordingly, she put together a tailored plan to our very situation and circumstances.

 

All I can say is that Ann was some kind of a horse whisperer. Although she never set foot in our house as all conversations were done via phone or Skype, she helped me understand what L was going through and slowly empowered me to follow my instincts in teaching L how to fall asleep on her own, and how to appreciate sleep. She taught us a helpful sleep time routine and explained the importance of expressing emotions through play and the importance for Leila to feel safe in crying in front of us. Most importantly, Ann helped realise that babies are nothing but tiny human beings with a very limited communication ability.

 

Throughout the sleep training, Ann always put L's health and well being above all. She kindly suggested to stop the sleep training until L recovered from a virus that was weighing her down so that she's in tip top shape and ready to go further in her training, every time pushing new limits.

 

Eventually, L weaned herself off on practically on her own and I got more and more into the habit of talking to Leila, explaining to her the situation and comforting her. Believe it or not, I think Leila was getting the gist of my messages and was progressing at the pace she set for herself. By the end of the training, Leila was sleeping through the night on her own.

 

Now, even if we do go through bad sleep days, I feel confident and well equipped to get Leila back on track as long as she's ready for it. It's a constant process of encouragement, support and empowerment.

 

I recommend Ann without reservation.

 

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